All About…

Watch the video below to hear my story and an explanation of what I do (in Yiddish).

Or scroll down to read it all in English!

Enjoy! 

* For those of you who can’t see this video here’s a different link.

(This is not a word for word transcript from the video above but a general translation. To get the full picture I would recommend that you take the time to watch it… you can always make the playback speed faster…)

So, you want to know who I am and what I do?

Here goes:

I’m Yakov (Naftule) Rosenberg. I was born and raised in Monsey, NY… Viznitz Monsey.

 I attended the Viznitz Monsey Cheder throughout my childhood. From there I moved on and headed for the mountains, to Yeshiva… I’m assuming you know, to Gibbers Yeshiva (Kiamesha). I studied there from Shiur Aleph Yeshiva Ketana all the way through… until I got married. You’re talking about approximately 6 ½ years, that I studied in the same building, ate the same food from the same cook, slept on the same beds… This was the home that I loved and truly enjoyed being there.

Even though I was very much “in the system” and for some that would be an issue, for me it wasn’t. I loved being there and I came out as some would say fully “in the box”.

No one who knew me then would ever have imagined that I would be doing what I’m doing today and be where I am today.

I got married and moved to Montreal.

Yes, it’s cold here. Really cold.  Especially now, as it’s wintertime. But I Baruch Hashem like it here despite the cold and snow and ice…

Hashem gave me the challenge of moving to a new place and although it took time, I wouldn’t move back at this point (sorry guys…).

When I went out to work, I opened my own business.

I won’t deny the fact that it was hard. Really, really hard. It was a real struggle as anyone who has ever been in that position can attest.

But being in that business, I got to a point where I realized that I was not in the right place. I wasn’t looking to be there. I didn’t want to be there, and this was definitely not what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.

So, I went and searched… and searched… and searched…  

What was it that I really wanted to do? What was I truly passionate about? What is it that will make me feel happier, calmer and more satisfied at the end of the day than the beginning of the day? Most people at the end of the day are exhausted and weary. But I knew that if I was doing what was right for me, I would be feeling more alive at the end of the day. Every day.

Eventually, I was introduced to the world of coaching and specifically the training that I eventually took.

I started learning about what it is, what it does, how it works and who it’s right for. It was like all the pieces fell into place. I discussed it with who I felt comfortable discussing it with. And then it was like one, two, three – full speed ahead.

 And here I am today.

Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, the next question is what do I do?

To be honest, it’s actually very difficult for me to tell someone, in short, what I do.

In short – I am a coach.

Someone who knows what coaching is will ask me what type of coaching; business… life… marriage coaching… So yes, what I do is life coaching. Now that’s for someone who understands what coaching is.

But for someone who doesn’t and/or for someone who wants to understand more specifically what kind of coaching I do; here’s a somewhat longer explanation:

Why is it so difficult for me to explain what coaching is and what I do?

It’s because no two people are alike.

You are not your friend – and your friend is not you.

What works for you doesn’t work for him – and what works for him doesn’t work for you.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution.

Yes, we all have certain basic needs as human beings. But even that expresses itself differently in different people. Some need more of this and less of that and so on…

What I tell you is not the same thing that I will tell your friend – and what I tell your friend is not the same thing that I will tell you.

Let me explain this a little more…

When I talk to you, my goal is to understand you as clearly as possible.

When I understand you clearly it then gives me the ability to help YOU understand what you’re doing and what’s really going on inside of you.

When you are confused about something, no matter in what area of life it may be, I am here to help you gain clarity and guide you on how to make the decision that YOU need/want to make. My success rate in helping clear up confusion and then guiding the person to know how to make the right decision for themselves is above 98% Baruch Hashem. And may Hashem continue to help me do so.

Sometimes, a person doesn’t feel confused, but there’s something inside that’s causing him to be unhappy in some way. Then I’m there to help you realize and discover what confusion deep down inside is triggering this unhappiness – and to help you gain clarity.

I’m here to bring out the best YOU.

And especially by asking difficult questions. Questions that will make you think.

And I won’t let go easily. I will ask again and again until you find the answer that YOU are really looking for.

It’s not about me, it’s about YOU.

Can you find the answers that you’re looking for by yourself? Absolutely.

But it usually doesn’t happen by itself. This is because a person lives within his own “box” so to speak. It’s usually an outsider who will be able to see the bigger picture and ask more questions to stimulate better answers.

My goal is for you to find the answers that you’re looking for by yourself.

Because if I give you the answer then you will later ask yourself: “Couldn’t I have figured that out myself?”.

So, I will push… and question… until you come up with the answer or solution that’s right for YOU.

I am not here to fix you – because you are not broken.

Even though it may seem to you that you are broken at times. The truth is that you are not. Everything that you need, all the answers are within you right now. You just need to find it.

And my biggest goal for you is that you should be who you really are.

It doesn’t matter to me how you grew up and with whom you hang out. I want you to be who you truly are inside. No matter what this person says or that person does.

The reality is that most people today are a reflection or a shadow of the people they are surrounded with. Depending on who the 5, 10, 20 or even more people he hangs out with on a regular basis, that’s who he is.

A person needs to be able to take a step back and evaluate: Are these the people who really bring out the best in me? Who will support me and allow me to be who I truly am? Or do I need to find other peers? Or maybe I need to find someone who will challenge me to be who I really am and to become the person that I’m capable of becoming?

Let’s explore this just a little more with some examples…

When it comes to business, career, job, work, – whatever you want to call it.

Whether you are a business owner, an employee, an entrepreneur, a salesman, a professional etc.

Are you in the right place? Are you doing what you really want to do? And if not, how do you find out what is the right thing for you?

Maybe you already know what you want, what you’re passionate about it – but how do you make it happen? How do you go out on your own? How do you get a raise? What’s your next step?

Perhaps you’re in a place where you already are successful, and you are making your money. How do you take it to the next level? How do you build up the business to make more money?

Are you in a place where you are wondering if this is all that’s possible? I will earn X amount of money and that’s where it’s going to stay? The truth is that it won’t. it will either go down or you will make it go up… Remember, if it’s not going up, then it’s on the way down…

When it comes to your relationship with other people:

This applies both to your personal life and to your work life. Your employee, your boss, your co-worker, your partner, or your client… it doesn’t matter who.

You need to be able to understand others. You need to be able to accept and understand when someone tells you something what they really mean. Do they really mean it the way it came out?

To be able to communicate better and more clearly. To have the courage to approach someone and when needed, know how to apologize and make things right again.

And then there’s the point of building yourself up:

To feel good about yourself. To love yourself. Ve’Ahavta L’Reiachah Kamochah starts with yourself. To appreciate who you really are.

And to go a little deeper; to understand the different personalities within you. Because the truth is that every person has within himself several different personalities. Sometimes we behave one way and at other times we behave completely differently depending on which personality we are currently using. Take the time to identify the different personalities within you and to find the one that will serve you best at this stage in your life.

All this is what I’m here for.

And now, if you’re already here, please take a few minutes to explore.

Check out my blog to find more content that I’ve shared in the past. Come back to visit often since it’s updated weekly or check out my contact page to find out where else I share my stuff; quotes, videos and more.

There you will also find where and how to contact me directly.

May you have lots of Mazal, Hatzlacha and Siyata DiShmayah in everything that you do and may you be able to truly live the life that you truly want.

 

Yakov N